Pregnancy and motherhood are two life experiences that certainly change every woman. The arrival of a cute little soul in the family will start a new chapter in a couple’s life, filling it up with joy and love.
Back in the old days, a married couple was expected to have children soon enough after marriage and mostly when they were in their 20s. Today, the couples have the opportunity to plan their pregnancies based on various factors like a lucrative career, family responsibility, or they just simply do not feel ready to become parents. Such circumstances make the couples delay parenthood to their late 30s mid-40s.
While society’s pressure regarding early pregnancies may still exist in the modern era, it could be said that the actual stressor is the biological cycle of a woman’s body.
Therefore, if for any reason you plan for a late pregnancy, it would be useful to consider all the information, pros and cons before making a final decision:
5 Pros of Pregnancies After 35:
- Financially, you will/are stable at this age. In terms of career, you must have reached a level where you can provide for the baby or dedicate more time for his/her education (in case you are self-employed)
- By the age of 35 you must have gained enough life experience, you developed different stress coping mechanisms which allow you to deal with situations with more confidence and patience. This should have you a little bit more prepared for the motherhood compared to the ladies who have their first baby in the early 20s.
- You are more energetic during your 30s, which means that you can be fully involved in the play games with your baby.
- You are more confident and you will be able to develop a relationship with your baby based on your instincts rather than by following people’s advice
- The breastfeeding after 30 can reduce the risk of breast cancer
5 Cons of Pregnancies After 35:
- Although you may see many examples amongst celebrities who gave birth after the age of 35 (i.e Madonna 42, Cherie Blair 45, Janet Jackson 50), becoming pregnant can be a real challenge. Gynaecologists continue warning women of the risk of infertility after the age of 30 as the quality of the eggs continuously diminish. The process of in vitro fertilisation can be extensive, pricey and disappointing, putting the couples under intense emotional stress. Prof Nargund, lead consultant for reproductive medicine at St George’s Hospital in London and medical director of the private Create Fertility clinics in the UK said: “As women get older, they experience more complex fertility problems, so treatment tends to be less successful and more expensive.”
- The rate of miscarriage is higher in older women than in younger women. As a matter of fact, clinical studies indicate that the chances of a miscarriage in the 20s are about 8%, whereas the risk of miscarrying a baby after the age of 35 rises up to 50%.
- A pregnancy brings many physical changes and as you grow older, the body recovers slower than if you were younger. Additionally, the flexibility of the body diminishes as well, which may require medical intervention during the delivery.
- While you must have well planned the pregnancy, the first few months are challenging for every new mother as you will have to adjust to your baby’s needs. However, recent research has found that older mothers are more likely to experience depression and anxiety. The studies also took into consideration wealth and marital status, which may suggest that these two factors may have little influence on how new mothers adapt to motherhood.
- The above-mentioned point indicates that support is highly necessary. If you may feel affected by the break in career or if you try to juggle the two aspects of your life, it is advisable that you have family members who are willing to support you throughout the process.
The purpose of the article is not to dishearten women who for various reasons may plan to have late pregnancies, but it is highly necessary to understand the possible health consequences. Therefore, along with the advice offered by clinical professionals, the article aims to raise awareness. From a medical and psychological standpoint, the effects of a late pregnancy are not always illustrated by the media, which may lead women to have a wrong impression of the process. It could be assumed that the high expectations of pregnancy after 35 are one of the causes of postpartum depression.
Furthermore, when planning for a pregnancy after 35, it is also worth considering the advantages and disadvantages of being an old parent and how it will affect/benefit the child as s/he develops.
Regardless of the pros and cons, good luck with the pregnancy mommy ! 🙂